I engaged in a conversation with our brother in the YouTube comments under the latest video of the Seattle Law of One Study Group: https://youtu.be/53NQKxTBI20?si=xW9b_yXUJvK5FEmq.
The comment I want to send to him eventually became so detailed that I thought I would post it on the forum and provide a link to it on YouTube.
To avoid spreading the content around the forum, I decided to add this post under this topic. While it may not be directly related to the previous posts, it certainly pertains to the overall subject of this thread. Hereâs my response:
All in the Universe strives for polarization. This is one of the main acts of manifestation/distortion - the creation of two polarizations, positive and negative. Soul development towards higher densities is based on the difference between these polarizations; the neutralization of these two poles does not yield fruit.
Sexes are an effect of polarization that creates man and woman; the neutralization of these two poles (man and woman) also does not yield fruit. Polarization is a fundamental aspect of the Universe, and the polarization manifesting as man and woman is intended to create new qualities through their union. On a universal scale, thanks to polarization, the Creator makes possible experiences that would not normally be possible. The interaction between polarizations is crucial for this process.
Sex (biological sex) in practice has many points of contact with gender. So I donât see any reason at the moment to distinguish sex from gender. In practice, these differences become blurred, so when I write gender, I also mean sex. When I write sex, I also mean gender. It may happen that I also write sex/gender or gender/sex - I mean one, because they blend together in practice. One has a direct impact on the other. Physical sex and gender identity are closely intertwined. So Iâll treat it as one and the same, understanding some differences between the two.
Non-binary or transgender identities do not polarize sufficiently in either direction. Male and female genders are analogous to the division into two polarizations, Service to Others (STO) and Service to Self (STS). Someone might say they do not identify with either polarization, neither STO nor STS, claiming to work toward a third or another form of polarization, like a âpolarization of service to the pink elephant.â Similarly, someone might say they are neither male nor female, identifying as non-binary or someone else. However, in the fundamental aspects of existence and polarization, there are not three or four polarizations; there are two.
Someone may recognize that there is a third polarity like âservice to the pink elephantâ, just as there is a third âsex/genderâ, but this is a subjective recognition, and it just isnât there. However, everyone has the right to carry any beliefs about reality, according to the Law of Confusion. Other peopleâs views as to the various different genders other than male and female should, of course, be met with acceptance and full respect for free will as to the recognition of these genders and saying about them. One can create any personality identity and gender for oneself, here there is no limitation and it can bring results. Nevertheless, it will not necessarily be helpful from the perspective of, for example, the work to be done for the development towards the 4 density of Service to Others in current incarnation.
âŚHowever all of this does not close the topic but rather opens it. On one hand, being gay, lesbian, or transgender is not a full expression of a given sex/gender polarization, which in undistorted state is to bear fruit through the contact of two polarities and in this case it is the birth of a child from a woman fertilized by a man - the child is the literal and physical result of the meeting of two polarities. Being homosexual is a distortion from being heterosexual. Being transgender is a distortion and neutralization from being a polarized man or woman. Both allow for some new experience of the Creator through those people, but it is nevertheless a form of distortion from the basic conditions. For most, I think, this is not beneficial.
On the other hand, it must be considered that the Creator, working through us, seeks to know and experience itself in many ways. Sometimes someone is gay, someone is lesbian, sometimes people desire to be a woman in a manâs body, or vice versa. This has its place in the broader scheme of existence and must be respected. This stimulates the development of the soul.
I believe that every situation has two sides. The same situation for two different people can mean different things. For example, take a woman who was mistreated by a man. She chose this lesson. But instead of choosing love for men and herself as a woman, forgiving man for their bad behavior and herself for her choice of the wrong man and believing in her femininity again, fully expressing and strengthening it even more than before. Love here is the signpost, healing and development of the soul. And all this within the one female polarity.
She might irrevocably resent men, abandon contact with them, stop believing in herself and her femininity, start identifying as transgender and strive to become a man, reflecting men negative behavior, or conversely, behave as a man as she expected men to behave. However, this is twisted and pathological. She should forgive men and herself, discover reserves of feminine self-confidence, and continue to love in other relationship as non-transgender, heterosexual woman.
On the other hand, we might have a woman who, after being mistreated by men, begins to reflect masculine traits, starts displaying lesbian behavior despite previously having heterosexual relationships. It turns out that in her case, the unpleasant situation allowed her to discover her destiny, give catalyst to the right direction in here specific situation. There is no loss for her; she simply desired such a life, more difficult, more specific, more interesting and challenged from the perspective of her soul. Her soul wanted to develop in a specific way, and simultaneously the Creator desired to manifest through her in an unusual manner.
The matter is complicated; each person must be approached individually. The reasons for a personâs behavior can vary. For one, it may be a natural choice stemming from the needs of the soul; for another, the same behavior may be a sign of severe psychological and personality problems and act against themselves.
Generally, for us, as people engaged in spiritual development, it is most efficient to accept everyone as they are. This is the first important step. We donât need to agree with them or support them, but accept them and the situation as it is. Accept another man and woman without meaning of what is his/her situation and what is best for her, because we canât be sure about that.
To raise our polarization in a positive way even more, we can help others find their true selves, according to their free will and their own requests for help. Bearing in mind that these are individual matters, for one person, for instance homosexual behavior or becoming transgender may be an expression of not coping with reality; for another, it may be destiny and a choice of the soul.
Well, this is some of my view on it⌠In addition, various other things can be taken into account. For example, if one is a 6th density Wanderer, then actually living in full individuality as an integrated male and female into one - so it is a kind of hermaphroditism or bi-sexuality and someone can reflect that hermaphroditism in the 3rd density. And for him/her it may be normal and appropriate.
On the other hand, Qâuo often points out that distortions/manifestations like physical sex and other chosen biases and distortions are ways of experiencing and specific lessons we specifically came here for. To be men, or women, not hermaphrodites. Finding specific ways of self-expression that involve predispositions belonging to the specfific biological sex, male or female.
One must be open-minded and treat these things in relation to specific individuals. Everyoneâs situation is a little different.