Thank you for so patiently sharing your thoughts on this,
I have been pondering the subject with this additional context and now the idea of sts and sto feels more relatable to me.
I understand that verbal language is rather clunky and we apply it to the best of our ability in regards to referring to and describing reality.
a conceptual framework can be helpful to some degree, while there is the risks of misleading inaccuracy within any such framework
I think most people can relate to what is described in sts and sto, and I wonder if the titles can be tweaked for easier understanding of what they are pointing towards outside of the context of their descriptions, that is, being negative and positive
as I find that simply painting sts as inherently negative, is somewhat confusing, I would suggest a re-categorization of STO and STS as follows:
P-STS: Positive-Service To Self
win/win oriented(?)
Example: Self care can be of great service to others who care about you, hence positive-sts. win/win
and,
N-STS: Negative-Service To Self
win/lose oriented(?)
Example: Lifting myself up by pushing others down, Negative-sts
win/lose
Thoughts?