Free Will & Ethics in Conversation

[AAR]

Looking for thoughts/opinions/Channeled info…anything you got really…to wade through a dilemma I am having internally about the nature of sharing information during a conversation. Wondering if any of this falls under free will infringement or ethical concerns or anything like that.

I will set up the story for you with false names, but this is an actual thing that happened between some of my friends recently that was brought to me by one of the friends.

Cara went to a massage therapist named Leah, and while she and Leah have a good relationship outside of the massage therapy and enjoy time spent together, Cara had a negative energetic experience two different times while Leah was giving her a massage.

Later on, Cara shared this negative experience with her other friend Jackie but did not specifically tell Jackie not to say anything else to anyone. However, Jackie does have a tendency to over-share information about herself and others, and all of her friends know this.

Recently, at an event Jackie was hosting, Jackie was sharing with an attendee named Becca about Cara’s experiences with Leah, as they were discussing local massage therapists in a general sense. Cara overheard the conversation between Jackie and Becca and promptly came up to Jackie and told her to “never share information like that again with anyone”. Cara’s concern is that word might get around town that she had said something negative about her experience with Leah that could impact their relationship and she doesn’t want people to think poorly of herself or Leah. She enjoys her good reputation around town and generally gets along with everyone.

My question is, whose responsibility is it to keep the information about the experience Cara had with Leah?

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I was having this conversation with my husband today and feeling caught in the middle of understanding the spiritual, social, and ethical ramifications. He believes that it is Cara’s responsibility to not share the information with Jackie (or anyone) in the first place, especially if she is concerned about her relationship with Leah and the thoughts of others in the small town they live in.

I believe it to be FIRST Cara’s responsibility if she has concerns. But then also Jackies as well, to not pass the information along that she was not a first hand witness of AND to discern if the information is necessary to pass along at all.

It feels like sharing a negative experience may influence another person not to interact with Leah, when it may have nothing to do with Leah specifically, but how Cara and Leah’s energy clash during these message sessions.

My husband thinks that my stance makes him feel like humans will not talk about much of anything then if we can’t discuss experiences we have had with people, and that makes him feel sad to have less to talk about.

And I can understand this…

However, I can see also that we do a lot of unnecessary talking as humans which could infringe on other’s free will to make their own discerning choices without being influenced, as well as creating negative energy patterns by essentially spreading information that may or may not be helpful or true.

Thoughts?

[flofrog]

Hello AAR,

It is an interesting issue, isn’t it about what to share and what not ?

Perhaps the little path out off it is, if we have a negative energetic experience, after all it is ourselves, right, or rather our self, so perhaps a nice little path instead of sharing, is looking deep inside how did it become negative, how it started this way, and then look inside deeply what is my discomfort there, since this is our very own experience, what is there to learn about oneself. How was I that day, how did it start to feel negative, at what point, what was my state then when it started, does it feel like an experience I had before in a very different environment ?

There are so many little threads that we can find when we feel really uncomfortable, and it is much more about us inside that perhaps about another self.

Definitely an importunity there to find. So probably not to share unless we learn something about ourselves and if it might seem interesting to share once we have resolved it, and how.
So I am with you, it is personal.

[Tomhumble]

I truly believe that as the Kali Yuga comes to an end or after the Harvest if you will, those that move to the 4th density on earth will start regaining abilities such as telepathy.
So personally I try to live my life now as though those around me can already read my thoughts and understand what I’m thinking and how I’m feeling.
Honestly is always the best option as keeping information from others or not sharing your authentic self/truth will only result in blocking your blue ray energy centre (Throat Chakra).

It seems like Jackie perhaps likes a bit of a gossip but as long as the words being spoke are not of a negative nature I don’t see an issue with speaking the truth.

The things we see in other that we don’t like are the things we don’t like about ourselves.
There is no-one else but you sister.

[Trisha]

I can see both Cara and Leah having regrets with how they handled the situation. They both have the opportunity to learn a valuable lesson. For Cara, do not say things about someone you wouldn’t say to their face. And for Leah, do not repeat things that are not yours to share. Your husband’s stance is very all or nothing sounding to me. Just because one topic shouldn’t be shared doesn’t mean all topics shouldn’t be shared. I think you are a good friend who cares deeply for others, but you can’t learn lessons for your friends. They are growing from this experience. As uncomfortable as it is for everyone now, it will pass.

[Mirror]

I find these kinds of things very awkward in my own life and have had to search for guiding principles to steer by. Principally, I ask, what is the most loving approach?

But first of all, saying that someone “had a negative energetic experience” could mean a lot of things, right? Did it feel dangerous, off putting, scary, bland, upsetting? Obviously, it was awkward enough to mention it to a friend, so it was worth mentioning.

My feeling is that the most loving thing the massagee could do would be to express to her friend, the massager, that it didn’t feel right and that they need to work it out so they can both grow from it, because we’re here to grow and facing the situation with an open heart is one way we can grow.

As a friend, AAR, were I you (which I am not, I should point out here), I might feel the most loving thing I could do would be to share my bias towards working with her friend to lovingly learn together, and ask her what she thinks the most loving way forward might be.

Oh, and @Trisha, welcome to @Patrick’s portion of virtual space/time.

[Jim_Cox]

If I may interject my opinion?
Expectation is at the root of this dilemma, as I see it. The “negative energy experience” is only defined as “negative” because there was an expectation that was not met. The upset feelings from the massage therapist seem to be set in a belief that she expects others to judge her work by the words of another. And the need for advice on the interaction stems from an expectation that without influence, this moment will not be fully understood.
Could all involved accept that this is a justifiable situational catalyst for addressing expectation— both of relationship as well as point of view?
All are acting upon their desire to help another person— the therapist wanting a good reputation in the community so that they may further be of service to all, the “gossiper” to save another person from an experience they view as negative, and the author to help their friends relationship mend?
I see the responsibility lying within each to come to their own interpretation of what is right and what is wrong, with no conclusion being inherently correct.
That being said, I earnestly hope all involved can find the awareness that uses the catalyst to the best of their ability toward growth.

[soup]

Something about this reminds me of an idea
from astrology called Mercury retrograde.
It’s a fairly common pattern to be born with
and people born with this pattern can often
communicate tangent, or sideways as
opposed to say, honest and forthright.
So when you hang out then, you might
begin to weigh the words less and feel for
empathetic congruence which conveys
greater understanding on some level.
But beside the point, Mercury goes retro
fairly often and it can precipitate some
situations that may not promote good
decision making. Some astrologers can
put high attention to this in dealing with
others, as if misunderstandings or some
confused perspective might be blamed
on some planet appearing to move
backwards.

Oh, it looks like Mercury’s retro in Aries
as we speak, haha! Neptune seems on
the cusp between Pisces and Aries, as
if a sweet spiritual segment may come
to a close; and collective Spiritual
Warriors may blaze some new-found
trail ahead toward peace and prosperity!